What are your parents' financial plans? - Kenny Tey

| 01 Apr 2020

It's never easy to raise the topic of financial planning, even if you're in the finance and insurance profession. The topic of money is often sensitive and threaded carefully with strangers and even more so with family members. An article written for both practitioners and consumers, Kenny Tey, an active member of the Insurance and Financial Practitioners Association of Singapore (IFPAS), shares methods and situations on how to broach a sensitive topic like this to your parents.

Financial happiness is a two-way street

Oftentimes, parents are more than happy to offer financial advice, as they like to ensure that you are financially stable and have enough to be able to live a comfortable life.

However, most people tend to forget that it goes both ways. We also have to ask them about their financial plan for the future - subjects such as retirement, their wills/estate planning, and long-term care if it becomes necessary.

Asking about these matters and discussing the topic of money with your parents can be an odd, maybe even sensitive, subject. However, life tends to move fast, and many find themselves at a loss of what their options are when it comes to family finance.

Our parents’ plans can, and will, affect our own, making it vital to begin the discussion early. 

The key to approaching a delicate subject at hand is to use tact, and to make sure that the other party (in this case, our parents) are aware that we are entering this discussion as we want to learn and help. We may use life events and milestones to begin the conversation about plans - such as a new job, house, or starting a family. 

It rarely hits our minds that own parent(s) may fall sick.  When that happens, instead of you relying on your parents’ support, you have to take responsibility for their wellbeing and possibly the family.


Topic 1 — Retirement

Beginning your first job may be an appropriate gateway to the conversation. It is normal to ask for advice as you start contributing to CPF; questions such as “how did you grow your money in CPF, and what did you do with it?”, “did you have enough to buy the house? If not, how did you overcome the down-payment?”

Another useful start to the conversation may be when looking for your first house as the time comes to move out - just in case you may need an extra room for them! 


Topic 2 — ElderShield / CareShield

Life long-term insurance such as ElderShield / CareShield Life (a new scheme coming up) helps to offset the cost of long-term care, which helps with routine activities (such as eating, bathing, dressing) whether at home or in assisted living. The cost of extended care varies, but the average is as follows:

• Temporary Day Care: S$100 - S$150 per day or S$3000 - S$4500 per month

• Care Services at Home: S$80 - S$220 per day or S$2400 - S$6600 per month

• Intensive Inpatient Care: S$7,000 per month S$84,000 per year 

Long-term insurance usually gets more expensive with age, and most people who do buy ElderShield Supplement, to get higher and more comprehensive coverage, tend to buy in their 50s or 60s, making it crucial to start the conversation around this early.

Eldershield starts automatically at age 40 unless one chooses to opt out.  CareShield Life will start at age 30, and is compulsory. 

Asking directly (“How does CPF & ElderShield work?” or “Do you have any advice?” or “What did you do?”) may be the most suitable questions. To ease into the conversation, you can also use someone else’s experience as an example, then ask your parents if they have considered assisted living in the future, and how they would pay for it. 


Topic 3 — Preparing Financially for Retirement

The official retirement age in Singapore is 62, and the re-employment age, is 67. CPF starts its monthly payouts at age 65.

The average number of years for Singaporeans in good health is 73.65 years old. Most Singaporeans only start planning for retirement at 38 years old, but the longer you wait to start saving up for retirement, the amount that you need to save every month then increases exponentially. Basic monthly expenses for Singaporeans after retirement is at S$1,200 per month, working out to be $14,400 per year - this is without inflation, to provide an easier example.  

In a culture that is driven to continuously work hard, people may often lose sight of time, therefore finding themselves at a loss when the time for retirement comes around as they haven’t given it much thought before.

It is therefore vital to ask our parents if they are aware of how much they need in order to be able to live comfortably during retirement, and if they are prepared for it. If the answer is no, chances are that the responsibilities will fall entirely on their children, who may also be at a loss of what to do at that point. 


Topic 4 — Estate Planning

Although not necessarily a merry conversation to be had, talking openly about wills, trusts, life insurance, and advance medical directives can give us a little bit of insight into our parents’ intentions for the future.

Knowing what to expect from them, or that they’ve done some planning, will certainly make an emotional eventuality a little easier. Setting up your own estate plan - which may come when you start your own family - gives you a chance to ask your parents about theirs, or find out if they have any in place. 

Something you can use to start the conversation with is the example of a friend from work having a parent pass, but they could not find any paperwork. This allows you to transition into the question of whether your parents have all your paperwork together in one place, and who can access it should anything unexpected happen.


Lastly, your family might not be comfortable talking about finances just yet. While it is important to start the conversation early, it’s also essential to respect others’ boundaries especially around delicate topics like this.

You don’t have to have all the conversations about these topics all at once either; but it may be useful to make it clear that you feel that it’s an important discussion to have and that you’re willing to talk another time.



This is an IFPAS X Asia Advisers Network collaboration.

The article “What’s your parent’s financial plans?” –by Kenny Tey originally appeared in Tuesday Times, an online publication by IFPAS. 

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